Asking For a Friend: Carlos on roommates, v-day and rejection

Carlos is the better Uncle you never had.


Q:

What do you do if you weren’t hired to be an RA? Is my life over, help?!


A:

It can be stressful not getting a position you applied for, but stay on the lookout for other awesome opportunities! Explore the Redhawk Network and look into leadership and internship positions as well as other job openings. Your life is not over! There are so many opportunities waiting for you out there! Best of luck to you!


Q:

My roommate is ALWAYS on skype, the phone or facetime. It’s every single night. It’s always when I want to sleep or have it be quiet to study. I have asked her to go into our lounge or our living room. But she refuses going. I don’t know how to ask her again. It’s really annoying and I don’t want to explode but I can’t take it anymore. Please help me Carlos!


A:

I would try and talk to your roommate one more time and explain how it is affecting your sleep and academic time. Showing the magnitude of the situation can help and even though it may seem repetitive to you it might be the best way. If you live on-campus, I suggest talking to your RA so that you can all set expectations on how you want to share your living space.


Q:

I’ve thrown out the flowers this new guy I’m seeing got me for V-Day. I only threw them out because I’m allergic to the type he got me but how do I say that if he asks why? I don’t want to embarrass him!


A:

Perhaps you should try telling him the truth. What happens when he thinks that you really liked those flowers and he continues getting them for you? What if you two get married and he gets them for the rest of your life? Will you be able to stand the symptoms of being allergic to those flowers? It might be best if you explained the situation before things get more serious and he continues getting you those flowers. Or you can have allergies for the rest of your life if you’re into that.


Q:

How do I ask the person I am LOWKEY seeing if we’re being exclusive without wanting it to get more serious but also realizing that I do not want to see anyone else anyways? Does that automatically make things more serious? Help!


A:

I would try hanging out and getting to know this person a little bit more before making a decision on whether you do or do not want things to get serious. Telling the person you’re seeing that you don’t want to see anyone else or asking if you’re exclusive may make it seem a little more serious, but I don’t think that’s an issue. Talk to them and take time to build that relationship slowly if that’s what you want.


XOXO Uncle Carlos

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